Josh Chen – Global Citizen
Family Corner: Procrastination Syndrome
What again, Buto?
Have you ever heard this term? Procrastinate? Procrastination? Oops…so difficult, make our tongue slipped reading it…
Well, I don’t know if we could go as far as to call it a syndrome, but for many people procrastination is a very serious problem. It certainly seems to be the case for a lot of individuals.
What causes them procrastinate, anyway? Laziness? I don’t think so. That’s a popular notion, but laziness is just a relatively minor cause. According to psychiatrist FEAR is really the most important force that motivate people to put off doing something until later.
It’s actually somewhat related to the expectation syndrome. A lot of people feel they have to live up to other people’s expectations. They’re afraid to fail. Many times they fear they won’t be able to do something perfectly or well. They’re afraid to make mistakes, or maybe they don’t want to be rejected or to be told: no. They let fear take control of them and they put off any action.
Suppose someone wants to invite people to a party, let’s say Ms. Blanche. She’s always been afraid of these kinds of things. And she expects, either consciously or subconsciusly to be rejected, so she delays calling people until the very last moment. Her invitation is at such short notice that not many people are going to be able to accept. And that’s what happens. Hardly anyone can come. In an ironic way, Blanche’s fear has caused things to turn out like this.
So, what can we do?
There are 3 principles we have to try to stick to. The first is never to put off until tomorrow what needs to be done today. The second comes from Eastern philosophy, and that’s not to resist the needle – in other words, don’t try to avoid painful things. The third comes from Western philosophy and is summed up in Latin expression: carpe diem….seize the day!! Consider everything that comes before us as an opportunity. If it seems like a good and proper things to do, do it, regardless of whether it’s going to provide pain or pleasure. Don’t even think about whether it makes you afraid or not.
Of course, we have to be cautious not taking unnecessary or foolish risks, but we urge ourselves not to put off living.
- I believe that if anything is worth doing, it would have been done already.
- I shall never move quickly, except to avoid more work or find excuses.
- I will never rush into a job without a lifetime of consideration.
- I shall meet all of my deadlines directly in proportion to the amount of bodily injury I could expect from missing them.
- I firmly believe that tomorrow holds the possibility for new technologies, astounding discoveries, and a reprieve from my obligations.
- I truly believe that all deadlines are unreasonable regardless of the amount of time given.
- I shall never forget that the probability of a miracle, though infinitesimally small, is not exactly zero.
- If at first I don’t succeed, there is always next year.
- I shall always decide not to decide, unless of course I decide to change my mind.
- I shall always begin, start, initiate, take the first step, and/or write the first word, when I get around to it.
- I obey the law of inverse excuses which demands that the greater the task to be done, the more insignificant the work that must be done prior to beginning the greater task.
- I know that the work cycle is not plan/start/finish, but is wait/plan/plan.
- I will never put off tomorrow, what I can forget about forever.
- I will become a member of the ancient Order of Two-Headed Turtles (The Procrastinator’s Society) if they ever get it organized.
Source: Nigel Mendez, “Procrastinatior’s Creed”