[Family Corner] When Parents Spend ‘Too Much’ On Their Children’s Birthdays



I came across this interesting article today. A thought-provoking one for me.

And I’d like to share it with you.

It’s titled ‘When Spoiling the Kids Goes Too Far‘, by Anita Othman, on the Jakarta Globe.

Click HERE to read the article.

The article highlights what some parents do for their children on their birthdays.

One father bought his 14yo son a Ferrari.

Another father made it a tradition to award his children a car of their choice on their 15th birthday (complete with a driver and a customised license plate)

A mother gave her 15yo daughter an ultra-luxury handbag.

Or, a weekend getaway in Paris with friends, in a private jet.

And the latest, a father bought his teenage son a … helicopter.

A REAL one.

While of course it is totally up to the parents themselves on what they’d like to give to their own children on their birthdays (since they can afford it anyway!), this article made me wonder :

… can they possibly get this message instead, ‘Mommy and Daddy are usually busy and away from you, we hope these gifts can replace what we haven’t done together and the family time lost over the years.

If WE had the financial resources, and we spent it lavishly on the children, will they learn the value of money or hard work?

Do these gifts make us bond better with our children?

Or, can they possibly get this message instead, ‘Mommy and Daddy are usually busy and away from you, we hope these gifts can replace what we haven’t done together and the family time lost over the years.’

Also, I thought 14 and 15 year olds are NOT supposed to be driving anything just yet?

Here’s an extract from the article:

“Perhaps some parents are also guilty of trying to outdo each other? I can just imagine parents thinking to themselves, “If so-and-so held such a grand birthday party and gave such an expensive present, I have to top that or my child might think I love him or her less. Or even worse, people might think I can’t afford to splurge.”

What a scary, materialistic world we live in.

A world filled with many materially-happy children and teens, but time-deprived and disconnected relationships?

We may not buy our teenage children cars or helicopters.

But have we splurged ‘unnecessarily’?

If we are not constantly careful about how we are parenting our children and the kinds of values we pass on to them, I worry we too will follow wherever the ‘currents’ take us.

Food for thought for me.

And for you too, I hope.


Backlink: http://www.oureverydaythings.com/2012/10/parenting-when-parents-spend-too-much-on-their-childrens-birthdays/


10 Comments to "[Family Corner] When Parents Spend ‘Too Much’ On Their Children’s Birthdays"

  1. nevergiveupyo  4 December, 2012 at 13:29

    thank you for this very nice sharing…

  2. kembangnanas  4 December, 2012 at 13:24

    wah, ulang tahun cuma di rumah aja, dg anggota keluarga lainnya. Paling cuma ada kue

  3. Djodi Sambodo  3 December, 2012 at 23:43

    sometimes one lovely hug more meaningful than any gifts…I guess.

  4. silvia u(su bumi)  3 December, 2012 at 17:39

    Sesuatu yg berlebihan itu biasanya tdk membawa kebaikan.

    Kalau motif merayakan pesta dan memberikan hadiah spt yg diceritakan diatas biasanya sih krn insecurity. Mrk yg ngerti bhw kekayaan dunia itu harus dikelola sesuai dgn keinginan yg Punya.

    Sy & suami tipe yg tidak menikmati pesta besar. Sdgkan anak2 suka minta dirayakan pesta ultahnya. Jd dirayakan di sekolah mrk dg teman2 sekelasnya. Anak bahagia, suami dan sy juga tidak merasa tersiksa.

  5. Linda Cheang  3 December, 2012 at 11:30

    btw, sudah sekian tahun terakhir ini orang tuaku malah lupa hari ultahku, dan aku juga nggak suka merayakannya…

    no problema….

  6. J C  3 December, 2012 at 09:42

    Aku tidak suka dirayakan ultahku….

  7. IWAN SATYANEGARA KAMAH  3 December, 2012 at 06:14

    Hanya sekali saya berulangtahun dirayakan selama hidup. Jadi,kurang bisa merasakan bagaimana indah berulangtahun.

  8. ah  2 December, 2012 at 20:37

    beruntunglah ortuku, seumur hidup ultahku ga pernah dirayakan *nyengir

  9. Dj. 813  2 December, 2012 at 16:53

    Ooooo…. kebanyakan uang kah…???

  10. Linda Cheang  2 December, 2012 at 12:18

    perhaps money can buy anything (goods) except the true love, for the kids…

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