Male or Female?

Ita Siregar

 

The last day of year 2011 a person named Nader Fathzadeh sent me an email. I was taken for granted that this Nader is a female person. She said that she is a new member of Servas in Iran and is traveling to south east Asia for about two weeks. She would be in Jakarta for 2-3 days and asked me if I could host her while she was in here. I said, of course she could. But she didn’t tell the exact date she would arrive in Jakarta.

Nader’s itinerary kept changing. Since I just moved to a new house, I still hadn’t had my internet connection yet. I didn’t check emails everyday so I gave Nader my cell phone in case she would be in Jakarta at a sudden.

She sent me emails telling me that she was here and there in Sumatra Island. Finally she emailed me when she was about to fly to Yogyakarta from Medan, that she already got the ticket to Jakarta in January 21 at 9pm. She said Jakarta was the last spot city before she left for Kuala Lumpur at January 23.

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So the unexpected story began from here. The 21st of January. At 8pm Nader texted me that she missed the flight because of big raining in Yogyakarta that she could not make it. So she bought a new ticket for the next day to Jakarta at 650am and would arrive at 8am in Jakarta airport. I said sorry for her.

In the morning I texted Nader to text me when she had had arrived in the airport. She did. Then I made a call. It was a big big surprising that I heard a male voice. To make it sure, I asked this person slowly and clearly, Nader are you male or female? He said, of course I am a male. Okay then. I explained to him to take DAMRI bus and bla bla bla, so that I could pick him up.

While he was on the way, I kept thinking, what should I do. Now I couldn’t host him because he is a male. Then I picked him up somewhere. In taxi, I said to him that it is not proper here for a male to stay overnight in a female’s house. Oh, that was what Nader responded.

So we arrived at my home. Safely, of course. He had his breakfast. And then we talked about many things about our countries while Nader washed his clothes in the machine. He is a very polite person and he is a professional traveler. He said that in Jakarta he would like to see some spots like museums, historical buildings, and such things. So I took him to Monument Nasional (Monas) and old city Kota and batik in Grand Indonesia. While doing that I sent messages to some friends if one or two could stay overnight in my house or Nader in their house, otherwise.

It was already 9pm. We were still in grand Indonesia. And still no place for Nader to stay overnight. Then we were back home. Nader said that he needed to check his emails. I said fine. I let him using my computer.

Then a friend called, he could help me finding a hotel nearby. But I said it was not the idea of Servas program. It is for peace and trust and understandings between people from all over the world. That is what the main purpose of Servas. Then he said, so I think it is okay for Nader to stay overnight in your house.

It was over 11pm. It was tiring to think about many how ifs in this case. And Nader was still on the computer. He didn’t know what I was doing. So I gave up trying. I said to him I would go to sleep earlier. He said okay. And I slept very well that night.

In the morning I asked him what time he went to sleep. He said at 2am. Before leaving the house Nader gave me a plastic of cotton candy from Iran which was very sweet and supple, and kinds of special nuts from his country. It was nice. Finally I took him by bajaj to Rawamangun terminal to catch up DAMRI bus. His flight to KL was at 1140am.

Till we meet again, Nader. It was a pleasant hosting you in my place.

Nader is my third guess of Servas.

 

8 Comments to "Male or Female?"

  1. Kita  31 August, 2013 at 05:47

    …. sangat menarik dan membuat tertarik …..

  2. Swan Liong Be  28 August, 2013 at 15:43

    @Ita: terimakasih atas penjelasanmu, sekarang aku mengerti setelah baca uraianmu. Aku tadinya tidak mengerti karena aku juga belum pernah dengar atau baca tentang perkumpulan “servas”ini; apa tujuan utamanya adalah pelayanan/jasa karena nama servas berasosiasi dengan service.
    Iya nama kadang² tidak menunjukan gender, seperti nama Andrea di Italia dipake untuk pria maupun wanita.
    Nama Maria juga sering terdapat dalam nama jerman tapi kebanyakan dipake untuk nama kedua, nama pertamanya biasanya nama pria seperti mislanya Günther Maria….. Dikalangan orang Tionghoa ditambahin “Nio” ya, supaya jelas itu wanita.

  3. J C  28 August, 2013 at 10:08

    Sharing pengalaman unik yang apik sekali…

  4. Ita Siregar  28 August, 2013 at 07:51

    Ko Liong Be dan teman2, terimakasih sudah membaca.

    Jadi ceritanya, saya anggota servas Indonesia. Nader Servas Iran. Sesama anggota Servas Internasional bisa tinggal di anggota Servas di mana saja seluruh dunia dan sekaligus menjadi host.

    Biasanya di catatan kita, kita memberitahu, apakah kita mau meng-host anggota laki-laki atau perempuan.
    Nah, di catatan saya, saya mengumumkan, hanya ingin menjadi host untuk Servas perempuan.

    Waktu Nader meng-email saya, saya tak berpikir lagi, pasti Nader itu perempuan.

    Jadi waktu saya ketemu Nader ternyata laki2, saya jadi bingung. Ada yang salah di sini. tetapi rupanya buat Nader itu tidak masalah menginap di rumah saya, perempuan. secara dia orang Iran.

    Menghargai Nader yang sopan dan baik, diam2 saya menghubungi teman laki2, kalo2 mereka bisa ikut menginap di rumah saya, atau Nader di rumah mereka. tetapi tak ada.

    Nader bisa saja menginap di hotel, tetapi karena dia sudah berniat menginap di sesama Servas, saya pun tak bisa mengusulkan dia menginap di hotel.

    Begitulah. semoga nggak jadi bingung ya…hehehe…

  5. Swan Liong Be  27 August, 2013 at 21:18

    Maaf ya, saya baca kisah ini beberapa kali tapi tidak bisa mengerti dimana letak persoalannya; apakah karena Ita salah paham dengan menganggap dulunya Nader wanita , ataukah karena Nader pria , jadi tidak bisa nginep dirumah Ita , ataukah sebagi anggota Servas tidak bisa nginep dihotel?
    Pada achir berita tertulis:” It was a pleasant hosting you at my place” Kesimpulanku: Tidak menjadi soal bahwa Nader toch nginep ditempat Ita meskipun beda gender.
    Atau ini suatu kisah fiksi?

  6. Dj. 813  27 August, 2013 at 20:29

    Bin nummer drei.

  7. James  27 August, 2013 at 11:01

    T w o, same gender …..

  8. Lani  27 August, 2013 at 08:52

    one……F or M?

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